Maybe You Are Not Searching For Purpose

Maybe you are not searching for purpose, you are looking for orientation.

It's such a trope in self-improvement circles that you should have meaning and purpose in order to have a fulfilling life. That we must all find our why to be happy.

But, what if that's not actually as useful as we have been led to believe? What if purpose isn't the answer.

Let's take a step back, you’ve probably been told you need a life purpose, right? Some ultimate goal that gives everything meaning. But have you ever noticed how that idea can feel, well, a bit wrong? Particularly in the secular world.

I mean, is there actually one thing that gives everything meaning? What if you never find it? Or worse, what if you do, and it still doesn’t feel like enough?

There’s another way to look at this.

Instead of searching for a single purpose, what if you focused on orientation instead? If you looked for a way of moving through life that keeps you connected, engaged, and growing?

I am pretty sure that meaning isn’t something fixed that you achieve. Rather it is something you cultivate and nurture. And you acquire that through seeking wisdom, being in relationships, and being attuned to what’s resonant for you.

I've certainly noticed that, when I stop fixating on “the one thing” and started paying attention to how I want to be every day, life opened up.

So, why not reflect on this for a while:

What if my it isn’t about reaching a destination, but learning how to walk the path well?

Maybe that’s where real meaning lives? I'd love to know what you think.

Stephen

PS On Thursday (11am UK time) I am doing a live interview with Dr Catherine Coward who is a GP and Menopause expert. The subject of the interview is "What Men Need To Know About Perimenopause". You can find out more on LinkedIn and YouTube.